A guide for therapists practicing in destabilizing times
Orientation Note: This piece is not a clinical directive, treatment model, or call to action. It is an orientation for therapists practicing in destabilizing times, offered as a companion rather than an instruction.You are invited to read it at your own pace, notice what resonates, and leave the rest, without pressure to agree, apply, or resolve anything immediately.
Reflective Prompt
A gentle pause before reading:
As you read, notice where your body softened or tightened. What part of the work feels most strained right now, and what kind of support would make it more sustainable?
There Is No Neutral Therapy Room Right Now
There was a time when the therapy room could be imagined as a sealed container. A space apart from the world, buffered from the news cycle, the political climate, the collective nervous system weather. That idea has been quietly unraveling.
Therapists are practicing inside the same reality as their clients. We are witnessing the same events, absorbing the same images, and living under the same ambient strain. There is no true outside position. No untouched vantage point. The work is happening in real time, inside a shared and unsettled world.
This does not mean the therapy room has lost its integrity. It means the fantasy of perfect neutrality no longer holds.
Many clinicians feel this shift but hesitate to name it. There is often an unspoken belief that to be impacted is to be compromised. That professionalism requires emotional insulation. That steadiness comes from not feeling too much.
In destabilizing times, this belief quietly harms the very people it is meant to protect.
Being affected by the world you are practicing in does not mean you are doing the work wrong. It means you are human in a profession that requires presence. The problem is not that therapists notice what is happening. The problem arises when we are expected to notice without impact, to witness without response, or to metabolize collective distress in isolation.
Therapy has always been relational. The difference now is that the context is louder, faster, and more morally charged. Clients are bringing fear, anger, grief, and existential confusion into sessions that are shaped by conditions no individual therapist can control or resolve.
Naming this reality is not self-indulgence. It is orientation.
When the ground is unstable, pretending otherwise does not create safety. Acknowledging the conditions we are practicing in allows us to locate ourselves more honestly within the work, rather than bracing against an impossible standard of emotional absence.
The therapy room does not need to be neutral to be ethical. It needs to be regulated, reflective, and human.
That is where we begin.
The Therapist’s Nervous System Is Part of the Work
Every therapy session is an encounter between nervous systems. This has always been true, even when it was easier to pretend otherwise. Regulation, attunement, and safety do not arise from technique alone. They emerge through presence, pacing, and the subtle exchanges happening beneath the words.
In times of collective instability, this reality becomes harder to ignore.
Therapists are absorbing more than individual client stories. We are holding fear that has no clear endpoint. Grief that is not resolved by insight. Anger that is tethered to forces outside the therapy room. Over time, this accumulation leaves its mark.
For many clinicians, the signs are quiet at first. A sense of bracing before sessions begin. Fatigue that feels disproportionate to the day’s schedule. Irritability that arrives without a clear cause. A flattening of affect or, conversely, emotions that feel closer to the surface than usual. These are not failures of professionalism. They are signals of a nervous system under sustained relational demand.
Vicarious trauma does not always arrive through dramatic moments or singular cases. More often, it emerges through repetition. Through bearing witness again and again while the broader conditions remain unchanged. The nervous system responds by trying to protect the clinician’s capacity to keep going.
This is where self-judgment often creeps in. Therapists may wonder why they feel less resilient, less spacious, less patient than they once did. The cultural myth of the endlessly regulated clinician offers little room for acknowledging that co-regulation goes both ways.
The truth is simpler and more uncomfortable. Therapists are not immune to the times they are practicing in. The nervous system does not reset at the end of the session hour. It carries the residue of what has been held, especially when that holding occurs without adequate space for processing and rest.
Recognizing this is not an invitation to center ourselves over our clients. It is an ethical necessity. When the therapist’s nervous system is ignored or overridden, attunement narrows. Reactivity increases. Burnout becomes more likely, even in clinicians who care deeply about their work.
Attending to the therapist’s nervous system is not self-indulgence. It is part of maintaining the conditions that make good therapy possible. Regulation supports presence. Presence supports relationship. Relationship remains the heart of the work, even when the world outside the therapy room feels anything but regulated.
This is not about becoming invulnerable. It is about becoming aware.
The False Binary: Care Deeply or Detach Completely
Many therapists quietly live inside a false choice. Either care deeply and risk being overwhelmed, or pull back emotionally and stay functional. The pressure to choose between these two states intensifies during destabilizing times, when client material feels heavier and the broader context offers little relief.
This binary is exhausting, and it is not accurate.
Detachment is often mistaken for regulation. When clinicians feel flooded or depleted, emotional numbing can look like steadiness from the outside. Sessions continue. Notes get written. The work technically happens. But something essential narrows. Curiosity fades. Flexibility tightens. The relational field becomes thinner, even if no one can quite name why.
On the other side of the binary, overidentification can quietly take hold. Caring deeply without sufficient containment pulls the therapist’s nervous system into a constant state of urgency. Everything begins to feel personal. The therapist may carry client fear or anger long after sessions end, replaying conversations, scanning for the “right” intervention, or feeling responsible for outcomes that were never theirs to control.
Neither collapse nor detachment supports good therapy.
There is a third option, though it is rarely named explicitly. Boundaried presence. Regulated engagement. The capacity to remain emotionally available without surrendering one’s internal center. This state does not require indifference, nor does it demand self-erasure. It requires regulation.
Regulation allows the therapist to feel without drowning, to care without fusing, and to respond without being driven by urgency. It creates enough internal space to hold complexity, ambivalence, and grief without needing to resolve them prematurely.
This is especially important when clients are bringing material that has no clean answers. In those moments, the therapist’s ability to tolerate uncertainty becomes more important than any particular technique. Regulation makes room for that tolerance.
Letting go of the false binary does not make therapists less compassionate. It makes compassion sustainable. It allows the work to remain relational rather than reactive, even when the world outside the therapy room feels increasingly difficult to metabolize.
The goal is not emotional distance. It is steadiness.
When Clients Ask the Unanswerable Questions
In destabilizing times, clients bring questions into the therapy room that have no clean answers. Questions about safety, meaning, and the future. Questions that stretch beyond individual history and symptom relief and into the realm of shared reality.
Is the world falling apart.
How am I supposed to feel safe.
What is the point of healing if everything feels so unstable.
These questions can activate something particular in therapists. A pull to reassure. A pull to restore hope. A pull to say the right thing that will steady the room. Underneath that pull is often a wish to reduce suffering, both for the client and for ourselves.
But these are not questions that can be answered in content alone.
When therapists feel pressure to respond with certainty, the work can quietly drift away from attunement. Reassurance becomes premature. Optimism becomes a defense. Interpretation becomes a way to manage the discomfort of not knowing. Clients may sense this and either comply, withdraw, or escalate their distress.
A different stance is available.
Rather than answering the question as it is asked, therapists can attend to what the question is doing in the room. What feeling accompanies it. What fear or grief is underneath it. What part of the client is seeking orientation, not explanation.
In these moments, therapy is less about making sense of the world and more about restoring the client’s relationship with themselves within it. Reflecting the impact of uncertainty. Naming the emotional weight of living without guarantees. Helping clients notice what happens in their body as they voice what feels unanswerable.
This does not mean avoiding reality or softening its edges. It means recognizing that meaning does not always arrive through answers. Sometimes it arrives through being accompanied while the questions remain open.
Therapists do not need to resolve existential distress to be helpful. They need to stay present, regulated, and willing to hold complexity without rushing toward closure. When clients feel met in that space, something steadies, even if nothing has been solved.
The therapy room becomes a place where uncertainty is not pathologized, and where not knowing does not mean being alone.
Moral Injury in the Therapy Chair
Not all exhaustion in this work is burnout. Burnout suggests depletion from overwork or inadequate rest. Moral injury is different. It arises when clinicians are asked to bear witness to harm without the power to prevent it, repair it, or meaningfully change the conditions producing it.
Many therapists are holding clients who are being impacted by forces far beyond the therapy room. Structural injustice. Community violence. Economic instability. Systems that feel indifferent or actively harmful. The work becomes less about symptom relief and more about helping clients survive within conditions that continue to wound them.
This can create a quiet, aching conflict inside the therapist.
You may find yourself helping a client cope with circumstances you wish did not exist. You may feel grief about what you cannot fix, anger toward systems you cannot control, or helplessness that sits beneath the steady cadence of sessions. None of this makes you less competent. It means you are ethically awake.
Moral injury often shows up as a sense of futility rather than fatigue. A feeling that the work matters deeply and still feels insufficient. A tension between professional commitment and moral clarity. Over time, this can erode hope if it remains unnamed.
For therapists who are also navigating marginalization, precarity, or direct exposure to harm, this load may be compounded in ways that are rarely acknowledged.
What helps is not pretending these tensions are not present. What helps is creating space to acknowledge them without collapsing into despair or hardening into cynicism. Naming moral injury allows it to be held with care rather than carried alone.
Therapy does not require you to resolve injustice in order to be meaningful. It requires you to stay present with the human impact of injustice while supporting clients in preserving dignity, agency, and connection. That work matters, even when it does not change the world as quickly as anyone would wish.
Moral injury is not a sign that the work is broken. It is a sign that the work is touching something real.
Supervision Is Nervous System Care
In destabilizing times, supervision is often the first thing to be deprioritized. Schedules tighten. Energy narrows. The internal message creeps in quietly: I should be able to hold this. Competence becomes equated with self-containment, and isolation masquerades as professionalism.
This is a misunderstanding of how nervous systems work.
Supervision is not only a place to refine technique or review cases. It is a regulatory space. A place where the therapist’s nervous system can discharge what has been held, metabolize what has been witnessed, and reorient when meaning begins to distort under cumulative strain.
When therapists practice without adequate consultation or relational support, the nervous system adapts by narrowing. Perspective tightens. Reactivity increases. Ethical clarity can blur, not because the therapist lacks integrity, but because sustained isolation amplifies threat and urgency.
If you are noticing signs of narrowing, bracing, or emotional flattening, consider that as information, not failure, and seek a space where your own nervous system can be met.
No nervous system is meant to process this work alone.
Good supervision offers more than answers. It offers containment. A place where uncertainty is tolerated, moral tension can be named, and emotional responses are met without judgment or escalation. In those conditions, steadiness returns. Curiosity reopens. The work regains depth.
This is especially important when therapists are holding collective trauma or morally charged material. Without reflective space, therapists may unconsciously overfunction, underfunction, or carry responsibility that does not belong to them. Supervision interrupts these patterns before they harden.
Seeking consultation is not a sign that you are struggling. It is a sign that you are attending to the conditions that make ethical practice possible. Regulation is not a private achievement. It is relational.
Therapists do not need to be endlessly resilient. They need to be supported.
What Actually Sustains Therapists Over Time
Most therapists were trained to think about sustainability in individual terms. Better boundaries. Better self-care. Better time management. While these ideas are not wrong, they are incomplete, especially in periods of collective strain.
What sustains therapists over time is not optimization. It is rhythm.
Sustainability emerges when the nervous system has regular opportunities to downshift, to integrate experience, and to reconnect with meaning. This does not require elaborate routines or perfect habits. It often looks ordinary. Predictable pauses between sessions. Limiting exposure to distressing information outside of work. Allowing some days to be quieter than others. Letting rest be restorative rather than earned.
Many therapists notice that they feel pressure to stay constantly informed, constantly available, constantly responsive. This pressure often masquerades as ethical responsibility. In reality, chronic saturation erodes regulation and narrows perspective. Staying resourced sometimes requires choosing not to take in everything, even when it feels important.
Sustenance is also relational. Therapists are more resilient when they are in connection with colleagues who can tolerate complexity without rushing toward certainty. Spaces where humor, grief, frustration, and doubt can coexist without being pathologized restore balance in ways solitary practices cannot.
Values matter here as well. Therapists are sustained when their work aligns with what they believe about dignity, care, and humanity. When that alignment frays, exhaustion deepens. Reconnecting with why you do this work, and what kind of therapist you are trying to be, can steady the nervous system more effectively than any checklist.
What actually sustains therapists is not endless endurance. It is permission to be human while practicing a profession that often asks for more than is visible. Regulation is supported by pacing. Meaning is restored through connection. Integrity is preserved through honesty about limits.
Sustainability is not something you achieve once. It is something you return to, again and again, as conditions change.
Staying Human While Holding Humanity
There is a particular kind of courage required to keep practicing in times like these. Not the loud kind. Not the heroic kind. The quieter courage of staying present without becoming hardened, of continuing to care without surrendering yourself to exhaustion or despair.
Professionalism is often misunderstood as emotional absence. As if competence requires invulnerability. As if steadiness comes from not being moved. In reality, good therapy has always depended on the opposite. Presence. Regulation. The ability to remain in relationship with what is unfolding without needing to control it.
Staying human does not mean bringing your reactions into the center of the room. It means not abandoning your inner life in order to perform composure. It means noticing when your nervous system is strained and responding with care rather than self-criticism. It means recognizing that your capacity to hold others is shaped by how well you are held.
Therapists are not meant to be neutral observers of suffering. We are meant to be regulated witnesses. People who can sit with fear, grief, rage, and uncertainty without rushing to fix or flee. That capacity does not come from toughness. It comes from support, reflection, and honesty about limits.
In an unhinged world, the work is not to be untouched by what you encounter. The work is to remain intact. To preserve your capacity for curiosity where rigidity would be easier. To choose connection over isolation. To stay aligned with your values even when the larger systems feel misaligned.
This work matters. Not because it solves everything, but because it protects something essential. The possibility of relationship. The dignity of being seen. The experience of not being alone with what hurts.
You do not need to carry this perfectly. You do not need to carry it alone.
Staying human while holding humanity is not a destination. It is a practice. One you return to, again and again, as the world shifts and the work continues.
And that is enough.
When the Therapist Is Going Through It Too
A steadiness guide for continuing the work without self-erasure
There are seasons when the work continues even as your own nervous system is under strain. When showing up for clients requires more containment than usual, and the usual sources of steadiness feel thinner or harder to access.
This companion is offered as a place to land when you are carrying your own heaviness alongside the work. It is not a protocol or a performance tool. It is a quiet orientation for moments when things feel helpless, unresolved, or simply too much to hold alone.
The guide offers gentle prompts and nervous system–informed practices to support balance, presence, and continuity of care without asking you to override your own limits. It is meant to be returned to on harder days, not completed or mastered.
TL;DR
Therapy is not happening outside the world right now. Therapists are practicing inside the same destabilizing conditions as their clients, and the idea of a fully neutral therapy room no longer holds.
Being impacted by the times you are practicing in does not mean you are doing the work wrong. It means you are human in a relational profession. Ignoring the therapist’s nervous system increases reactivity, narrows attunement, and contributes to burnout and moral injury.
There is a false binary many therapists feel pressured to live inside: care deeply and risk collapse, or detach and stay functional. Neither supports ethical, sustainable therapy. The alternative is regulated, boundaried presence. Caring without fusing. Feeling without drowning.
Clients are bringing unanswerable questions about safety, meaning, and the future into the room. The work is not to provide certainty, but to accompany clients in uncertainty with presence, regulation, and relational steadiness.
Moral injury is distinct from burnout. It arises when therapists bear witness to harm they cannot prevent or repair. Naming moral injury restores dignity and prevents quiet despair from hardening into cynicism.
Supervision and consultation are not optional extras. They are nervous system care. Regulation is relational, not a private achievement.
What sustains therapists over time is not optimization or endurance, but rhythm, pacing, connection, and alignment with values.
Staying human while holding humanity is not about being untouched by the work. It is about remaining intact, regulated, and relational in a world that asks a great deal. This is a practice you return to, again and again.
Written by Jen Hyatt, a licensed psychotherapist at Storm Haven Counseling & Wellness in Temecula, California.
Disclaimer
This article is offered for educational and reflective purposes only. It is not a clinical directive, treatment model, supervision substitute, or ethical guideline, and it does not replace professional consultation, supervision, or continuing education requirements.
The content reflects common experiences reported by therapists practicing in destabilizing times and is intended to support reflection, orientation, and nervous system awareness rather than prescribe specific interventions or professional actions.
Reading this piece may evoke emotional or somatic responses. You are encouraged to move through it at your own pace, pause as needed, and seek appropriate professional support or consultation if distress arises.
This article is offered in the spirit of care, integrity, and respect for the complexity of therapeutic work and the humans who practice it.
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